I’m A Single Mom…..Get over it

by writergirl68


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I don’t want this to come off as a diatribe, but if it does please charge it to my head and not my heart.  I am a single mother of two amazing girls and I am sick to death of society spewing its vile and detestable commentary about single parent families. Lumping this demographic into one group of degenerates that has seemingly latched onto what is presumably all that is good and wholesome in the world and depleting it of its life force.  Portraying us as morally deficient, lazy, promiscuous creatures looking to steal husbands and have a gaggle of bastardized babies at taxpayers’ expense.   Our homes are labeled “broken” and our children don’t have a snowball’s chance in hell to make it in this world because according to society, children born to single mothers are automatically defaulted to a life of crime, poverty and unmitigated despair.

May I ask society a few questions?  How did you come to such conclusions?  What makes you judge and jury over a family you know absolutely nothing about but feel compelled to condemn? Why have we been made the pariahs that are the target of your prejudice and disdain?  What are you afraid of?  Are you afraid of “catching” single parenthood?  Because you treat it as a  disfiguring disease you catch,  almost likening it the Black Death pandemic back in the 1300s.   We are single parents, raising our children just like dual parent households do.  We love, educate, guide and protect our children just like dual parent households do.  Yes there are bad apples in every bushel.  There are single parents who aren’t very responsible with their children just like there are dual parent households who aren’t very responsible with their children.  Don’t relegate single mothers to be these sadistic witches devoid of a moral compass who feed on the blood orphans.  We are mothers doing the job of two parents who don’t need you heaping your unfounded judgment upon our heads like hot coals.

The next time you see a single mom why not offer a hello.  She’s not looking to steal your husband, beg you for money or ask you for sympathy.  She has way too many things going on in her life just like you do.  And for those people who still feel compelled to leer at us like we’re some weird, exotic rain forest inhabitant, we’re just single moms……get over it!